I’m no Mother Teresa, but I would say that I am generous with those that I care about. I genuinely care for the well-being of those around me, and it matters to me that the people I love have what they need to get by.
That being said, I’m not stupid, nor am I a doormat. My generosity and kindness should not be mistaken for weakness or vulnerability. Attempts to take advantage or exploit are hardly going unnoticed. But I think this is the point where people sometimes get a little lost.
Often, when people realize that someone is taking them for granted, they get down on themselves. Maybe it cracks their confidence, or maybe it makes them feel like a prize idiot. Damn that. Don’t let someone make you feel bad for being who you are. Remember that what you did came from a good place. There’s no sense in feeling bad for doing something good.
People are taken for granted all the time. Rather than let what happened defeat you or eat away at your will and drive, let it fuel you. Use that experience as motivation, and most of all, learn from it. At the end of the day, if you’re not making the most of your life, you’re giving in to the negative energy that came to steal away your livelihood.
I am a true believer that you get what you put out into the universe. Call it Karma, call it an eye for an eye, Yin and Yang, call it comeuppance. I don’t have to do or say anything, try to get even, yell, or even be angry. I feel sorry for anyone that would take advantage, because it says something about where they are in their life — maybe they’re going through something. And I forgive. There’s no use in hanging onto negativity; it’s just a waste of energy that could be put to better use.
I won’t change who I am or how I treat people. I won’t stop caring, because that’s now how I operate. But I will keep my distance.